Lets Talk About S-E-X

This ladies is a very important blog post so please, read on! 

We all know how amazing sex is, when it's done right of course. We all have had years of boring sex ed classes, but still some of us just don't get it. I want to make one thing clear, this is not a lecture. I have heard time and time again that girls have had unprotected sex and it honestly makes me so angry! I know that most of the time your are so in the moment and the feeling without condoms is so much better, but did all those disturbing images and consequences shown in sex ed not scare you enough? 

Let us get some things straight...

Are you in a monogamous relationship?

If the answer is no, you stop for a quick second and just tell him to wrap it up. 

You don't know who he has been with, who his other partners have been with so why are you making your chances of being a statistic so vulnerable? I promise you those 30 min of unprotected sex was NOT worth living with an STD. Luckily there are some STDs that can be cured, but why take your chances. Use Condoms Kids.

Now for those who are in a relationship and the sex ain't all that and a bag of chips, here is what you can do. 

If your in a relationship and your having sex you should be semi comfortable with the other person(one would hope) and if your not liking something or wanting more or a certain move, say something. Yes, sometimes it can be very awkward and you don't want to offend the other person so you just don't say anything at all. I'm sorry but that doesn't seem fair! Believe me, he wants to please you so if you tell him you like something, that'll make him more confident. Back tracking to condoms, just because you are in relationship doesn't mean you should be playing sans protection either. Getting tested is always important so check yourself out and your man should too. Although BC is great prevention in the baby department it does absolutely nothing against STDs, but at least your doing something right! 

The most important thing I want you to get from this is that you, the woman, are in control.

V_Day.

Hey there! How are all those NY resolutions going so far? It's okay I already know the answer. 

The Hallmark holiday of the year is approaching and it is literally shoved in our faces from the grocery store to the massive display at (my fav)Target. Either your super excited for Feb 14th or absolutely dreading it, either way I have a couple of fun ideas on what you could do. 

Single :  Just because you don't have a significant other does NOT mean you are alone. I mean haven't you heard Kelly Clarkson (What Doesn't Kill You) lately? Ha. No but seriously do not sweat it if you are single, all you gotta do is get a couple of girls over, pop open a bottle of pinot and have a cute dinner. Not that you should wait until Valentine's Day to have a getty but it's a good excuse. I have plenty of yummy recipes so if needed you can always ask. Girlfriends are the best to spend the "day of love" together, because lets be honest where would we be without them?

WARNING: If you are single do not read on, it might make you vom. 

Taken : Everyone obviously always says you don't need to have a specific day to show your love and appreciation to each other, but who cares what everyone else says, its fun! Restaurants on V-day are quite obnoxious! With wait times varying from 1 hour to 1.5 hours, without reservations it isn't fun for anyone. Time to get creative and think about something else you can do. Its not always the guys job to be romantic sometimes us girls need to wow them too. Get some bubbly, make some bubbles and spend some time appreciating each other with a nice hot bath. Candles and some music might be so cheese but what do you have to lose.

Although 3 weeks away I will gladly aid those who need help with special plans for their V_day! MSG me , Tweet me or simply leave a comment 

XX - T

The One that Keeps Coming Back

So what do you do when someone who has caused you so much pain comes running back? 

It is quite difficult to let anybody back in once they hurt you. Whether it's a friend or a previous lover, once burned it is hard to trust again. 

Today I am strictly talking about the one running back in relationships. I've always gone by the theory that no matter what people tell you, you’re going to do what you want anyway. So I come to a crossroads when a friend asks me for advice about an ex coming back into the picture, when I spent so much time mending the pain he initially caused. There are always exceptions and it ultimately comes down to why you broke up in the first place. One of the most clichéd quotes that describe situations like this is, "you don't know what you have until it's gone". Men can be so one dimensional therefore clichés stick so well.

Sometimes if the man is lucky enough you give him a second chance, but ladies you have to know that sometimes a man is so lethal you MUST let him go. Of course there is probably no better feeling than having someone crawl back. For them to feel just 1/10 of the pain of not having what they want compared to what you have suffered. There are a few ways to go about this. I have seen firsthand two very different situations happen that I am going to share. 

B- Boy G-Girl

Couple A: B and G have been together for a total of 4ish years. In that time period B has broken up with G about 3 different times all for basically the same reason. It usually ends up with "he isn't happy anymore", well turns out after about an average of two months he comes running back every single time. All in all this B is very good to G except he has the same routine when it comes to break ups, which is simply selfish. The last break up though lasted the longest and G really changed. She realized that being in this relationship for so long has stopped her from going out and having a good time with friends. In this time between she developed a different lifestyle and when he came back and wanting another chance, she gives him an ultimatum. G was extremely distraught after the last break up and she really did have to turn her life upside down. It doesn't take a day to just get over it, remember what you had, and get back into a relationship. Lucky for him she gave him two options; 1. Stick around, accept my life as it is, and try to win me back or 2. Give up now because this isn't going to come easy. Smart B goes for option 1 and couple A are trying to restore what the once had, but remember B three strikes and you are out.

Couple B: Like couple A couple B have been together for about 4 years. Those four years though have been nothing but easy. A lot of heart ache was laced in this relationship and trust was a big issue. G made a few mistakes but B was not an easy person to deal with. Sometimes teenage love is hard to just get over. So the last year of their relationship was filled with nasty actions and G trying to make it work. Seems like 6 months later B realized what an amazing G he lost. Because it came to a point at the end where G just couldn't do it anymore, and she realized she didn't have to. She finally understood what she was worth. Now, G obviously still cares about B, but in my opinion the only factor that should bring them back together is B's sincere attempt to sweep her off her feet. Sometimes it takes a little maturity and time apart to help boys change. Change is definitely possible, but if it’s just back to the old ways, it’s time to move on.