Monday, May 19, 2014

Entering Reboot Mode

Sometimes we need to take a break from the things we love. To reboot, rethink, and reaffirm. Right now, I'm at a place in my life that is very foreign to me and I am slowly trying to peel back every layer from this experience to understand it better. I feel it is only right for me to share with you readers, not only the ups in my life but also the downs. As of now I'm unsure what happens next. I need some time to understand a transition of this kind and I just wanted to inform you that I'll be taking a mini break from The Other Best Friend. Hopefully this break will be so short you won't even have the time to miss me! TOBF is my therapy, to write helps me heal. I will be back to lace you life with goodies, I'm just taking a little vacation from blogging but this vacation can only help future posts.

I'll be back so soon.
Germaine Benson 

Friday, May 9, 2014

Triple A: Insurance Policy for Realtionships

All relationships need roadside assistance. I've finally figured out the three tools every relationship needs when it is having trouble. Even the perfect relationship needs some TLC sometimes. This is when the triple A's work their magic and don't get it twisted, this needs to be practiced from both sides of the relaysh. There is a certain time where everyone wants to be appreciated, get an apology, or for our significant other to be more affectionate.  

1. Appreciate- A little appreciation goes along way. People naturally want to feel appreciated, whether they did something big or small. It is so important to make the person your with feel good about themselves and appreciate all the things they do for you on a daily basis. I'm in no way proclaiming that you must say thank you for every little thing, but sometimes take a moment and realize all the things your s.o. does for you and show them how much you appreciate them. 

2. Apologize- Contrary to One Republic, It's never to late to apologize. I don't mean like a plain old "I'm sorry". I mean like a seriously sincere apology for something you did wrong. There is nothing I hate more than an apology to shut me up. If you do something wrong, you should grow a pair and own up to it. Anything that even slightly hurts your other half's feelings deserves a full fledge apology. I'm sorry I'm not sorry, but sincere apologies and admitting your wrong are super important in a successful realtionship! Make up and make love. 

3. Affection- With true love comes affection and one cannot survive without the other. With emotional love comes the physical romantic love. There is a time and place to show affection, and sometimes after a fight that is  the only thing your other half needs. After you've apologized it is important to literally hug it out. Sometimes even after arguments are over and laid to rest, emotions are still bruised. The reassurance of affection helps the mending process go faster.   


Xx 

Tuesday, April 22, 2014

Summer Internship: MIAMI Magazine

You know that feeling you get when you try on a shoe and it's the perfect fit, thats how I felt when finding this MIAMI magazine editorial internship. The search for the perfect internship was not an easy one. I'm not the kind of girl who just settles. When I want something I am very persistent.  I was determined to intern at a major publication in the Miami area. I had applied for OceanDrive and Deco Drive and I never heard anything back. I felt like I did everything possible for a shot at an interview with those two, yet somehow they never got back to me. I wasn't ready to give up yet. My mother, who works at a high-end salon, pimps me out, like every other mother should do. A regular client of the salon works for MIAMI and my mom mentioned to him that I was pursuing a journalism degree. After chatting with him he put me in contact with someone else who essentially set up an interview with me.
Last Monday my interview was at 11:30 a.m. and I got to the office a bit early. It's nestled in the chicest area of Miami, the design district. I get to say good morning to Sir Christian Louboutin and Prada every day. The interview went very well and I was told I would hear back from them in about a day or two. After three days passed, I was concerned but refused to let this slip through my fingers. I was excited about this opportunity and felt that I would learn so much from this experience. I then emailed my interviewer saying how excited I was to be considered for the internship. Finally after a week that seemed to go by excruciatingly slow, I got the good news via email. It gave me the boost I needed, this is what I want to do in life. Even though I am starting from the very bottom of the food chain, I'll be getting real hands on experience. Once again I am so fortunate to be getting this opportunity and I will be constantly posting about my experiences through out the internship!

Xx
G




Wednesday, April 9, 2014

Social Media and How It Effects Your Relationship

         Most of us have developed unhealthy relationships with social media sites like Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.  When selfies, #hashtags, and likes are some of your priorities, you've reached the detrimental limit. Sometimes those unhealthy relationships with our social media accounts overlap with our real life relationships and have a negative effect. Don't get me wrong; social media is a great platform for other things, like promoting a blog or staying in touch with people all over the world. 
         I have a unique case on my hands. My relationship is seldom splashed all over my wall and newsfeed. Boyfriend is not connected to any of the social media sites. He never really craved the need to follow everyone and create an account, let alone post constantly about his life. I understand where he comes from in some aspects and with others I don’t, but either way I respect his decision. So in my relationship social media has never played a crucial role. My passwords are always available and I’ve never had to worry about ladies lurking on my man.
         In other relationships fights have erupted and break ups have resulted from what happens underneath the wall posts. It’s the shady private messages and the comments that aren’t visible, that make it easier to be unfaithful. People often portray themselves differently online and that can also create problems. No one wants to be with a self-centered egotistical person who doesn’t stop posting selfies. Sometimes people even think that the grass could be greener on the other side with someone else and temptation kicks in.
         If you are constantly bickering with your other half about social media, take a step back and realize what is more important. At the end of the day the person your cuddling with is more important than the number of followers you have. If it isn’t, you need to reconsider the relationship you want to be in.

xX

G

Wednesday, April 2, 2014

Leave the Boys Behind and Make Room for the Men

Ladies it is time to let go of the boys who play games. If you're spending so much of your time with a boy who isn't serious about you, you're wasting the time that could be spent meeting a real man. If you're looking for something casual then that's okay play on, but for the ladies complaining that the guy they're with isn't serious enough, your issues are only going to get worse. You can't turn a boy into a man, that's something that comes from within and trust you can't rush that process. I read this article 13 Ways You Know You're Dating a Grown-Ass Man and had to share it with my lady friends who are confused about the definition of a Man. I decided to make my own list that puts a little twist on the articles current list. 

1. He supports your dreams and goals. He never will tell you that your not capable of  doing something. 

2. He trusts you. He doesn't need to look over your phone and see who your talking to. If you wanted to see his phone for any reason, he has nothing to hide and hands it to you. 

3. He has his shit together. He has goals and aspirations and is working towards them. 

4. You are not his only interest. He has friends and does other things other than fulfill your every need and encourages you to do the same.   

5. He doesn't play games. He is straightforward with his feelings and doesn't ignore you like a child would. 

6. He is close with his family and respects yours. It says a lot about a man who doesn't care to have good relationships with his family, let alone yours.

7.  He introduces you to people and makes it known that you are his. There is no confusion on where your relationship stands because you've already discussed it. 


xX 

Tuesday, April 1, 2014

Fave Five: Girls Night Out Ideas

Your relationships with your gals are some of the most important relationships in your life. Just like anything else, in relationships, you have to put in work. Put time aside and get your friends together because sometimes the only thing we really need is some girl time! Heres a few of my favorite ideas. 

1. Karaoke Night:
Everyone is Britney Spears once some vino is involved. Today with YouTube and lyric videos you don't need much to create a karaoke machine a.k.a connect an  iPad to your T.V and viola! It doesn't matter that you don't have a voice like Christina Aguilera, you should feel comfortable enough to belt out some tunes with your closest ladies. 

2. Wine Potluck under $10:
Of course great wines are usually expensive, but sometimes you can find good wines for under $10. The best way to find out your favorites is to tell all your girlfriends to each bring a bottle of wine and you try them all together. Slice wedges of Manchego, Gruyere and Brie, get some fresh French baguette, slice green apples, some jalapeƱo mango jelly and you're good to go in the food department. If you want to know more about a new wine you like check out one of my fav apps Vivino.  If you're feeling fancy you can even up the budget to $15 and under. 

3. Bowling:
Not your average bowling ally though, because those can get grimy. I'm talking about Lucky Strike kinda bowling. There is quality drinks and food that doesn't include bud light and some greasy mozzarella sticks, gross. They have locations all around the U.S. and are an all around good time.

4. Painting Fiesta:
There is nothing I love more then a creative outlet mixed with wine. A few months back when my sister was in town from Cali, we bought a Groupon for a night of painting that included chips and salsa and was BYOB optional. We ended up having such a good time and I didn't understand why it took me so long to find this place. We went to a cute little studio called A Panting Fiesta, but there are so many others to choose from in the South Florida area. Just put in painting in the search of Groupon for a discounted rate. 

5. Bubbles and Mud masks:
I don't know about you but I love face masks, champagne, and girls night, so the combo of all three is my favorite. I can spend hours at Bath and Body Works, I am obsessed with everything from body scrubs to bath salts. I have quite another obsession with sharing products I love with my friends, whether it's a new find from Birchbox or B&BW. Pop a bottle of champs and layer on the face mask and enjoy your gals company. 

Disclosure: I am not an alcoholic. But sometimes doing things with your friends becomes a little more entertaining when booze is involved. 

Xx G   

Friday, March 14, 2014

Amsterdam: Where the Tulips bloom and Heineken is brewed.

Only a three and half hour train ride from Paris yet Amsterdam seems like a completely different world. We left for Amsterdam early Saturday morning and arrived to the bustling city in the afternoon. I'm not sure if it was the gorge sunny weather or the day of the week but there were people everywhere. Our taxi driver took us straight to our hotel Notting Hill, which is highly recommended. We arrived to the sweetest welcome letter, because after all we were celebrating our 7 year anniversary!























After getting situated with our stuff we went to eat at a restaurant near by called, Bar Lempicka, and were blown away by the food. This seemed to be a reoccurring occurrence during our visit in Amsterdam, because literally every restaurant we went to was better then the last. We then headed to the Heineken brewery and took the tour. Anyone who comes to this city must go to the brewery, once you finish seeing how they make the beer, you drink it and then it turns into a full on party.

 


After filling up with some hops we headed to Dam Square to check out some coffeeshops (when in rome). We then experienced Amsterdam they way it should be experienced and walked around to get a feel for the beautiful city. 





















































Later that night we checked out the Red Light District, which was an experience within itself. We ate dinner at the super cool CAU, and walked around endlessly through the streets of Amsterdam ending up at Rembrandt Square to check out the nightlife. The next morning we ate breakfast around museum square and went to the Van Gogh museum. I can't say that I would exactly recommend going to this museum, after all the if I wanted to see the Starry Night, it's located in NYC. We roamed around that area which was surrounded with parks and people sprawled out on the grass fields.





Bikes in Amsterdam are as common as the scent of cannabis tulips and it is one of the main means of transportation in the small city.  Those bikers have no remorse for pedestrians. We wanted to rent the bikes for the afternoon but realized we did't have that much time left. We strolled through the fashion district and headed to dinner and experienced Amsterdam one last time before going to the train station

Everyone needs to visit Amsterdam at least once during their lifetime.  If not for their divulgences such as prostitution and legal drugs then for their outstanding cheese. 

Xx